Part of the reason why it’s so hard to let go of dieting and your obsession with being thin is your fierce connection to your beliefs.
Over the years, you’ve probably created hundreds of them, all driven by fear, shame or guilt and you’re holding on to them for dear life. After all, these beliefs have carried you through decades, through breakups, setbacks, jobs, entire decades. They’ve kept you safe – albeit miserable – and they’ve allowed you to continue living your life in the best way possible.
However, there comes a time when you have to lovingly say goodbye to these beliefs in order to move forward, heal and create the life you really desire: a life free from shame, fear and guilt.
If this is the time for you to break free and break up with your most firmly fondled thoughts, then here are 15 ones to give up right away.
Fat is baaaaad.
Not true. You need fat to survive. You need it to think. You need it to walk, talk, hug, kiss, work, dance, breathe. And if you’re scared that eating fat will make you fat (which is probably your biggest fear), you’ll have to challenge that belief too as there are numerous studies and examples indicating the opposite.
Carbs should be avoided.
Also not true. Carbs, as much as fat, protein and water, are essentials in a healthy, balanced and sane diet.
Cheat days are a great way to maintain your weight.
This is the biggest crap ever but so many people swear on it. They restrict for weeks only to then gorge on everything in sight. If you need cheat days, then you’re living a life based on food rules, which can never be healthy.
Let go of the rules and you’ll soon see that cheat days aren’t necessary nor enjoyable anymore because you get to eat what you want when you want – without guilt, without shame and without having to binge.
If I allow myself to enjoy my food, I’ll never be able to stop eating.
This is your fear mind speaking. The more you enjoy your food the more satisfied you’ll be, and thus the less you’ll have to obsess about food in general.
Plus, digestion starts in the mind, so if you allow yourself to enjoy what you eat, you’ll assimilate, digest and metabolize your food much more efficiently.
My appetite can only be controlled by dieting.
It’s this demonizing of your appetite that is keeping you in the diet-binge trap. Worship your appetite instead. You’ve got it for a reason and if you surrender to it, not force it, you’ll soon be able to trust yourself and your appetite again.
Dieting amplifies your appetite by a billion.
Being thin means being happy, successful and loved.
Look around – is that really true? For everyone?
The BMI indicates how healthy I am.
The BMI has been debunked over and over again. It’s a completely inept way of measuring anyone’s health – nor is it ever the right tool to measure your worthiness as a person.
So, if you’re calculating your BMI 25 times a day, which is what I used to do, stop it. Stop it cold turkey. You don’t need this false sense of worth to keep you going. Instead, go out and create a life worth living for. Trust me, you’ll thank yourself 10 years from now.
My mind is smarter than my body.
Never in a million years. Your body is wise. Your body processes information long before your mind gets what’s actually going on. Your body wants to work with you. It’s up to you to let your body guide you. It’s up to you to begin trusting in your body. It’s up to you to let go, surrender and let your body take the lead.
Losing weight will make me healthier.
The truth is that there are many extremely unhealthy ways to lose weight. Health is about so much more than weight. It’s about habits, it’s about how you treat yourself, it’s about how you feel, it’s about giving your body nourishment, it’s about balance, it’s about movement, it’s about joy.
None of these things are determined by weight. Focus on changing your beliefs, your habits, your coping skills and you’ll soon live a life that is about so much more than your weight – while you create real health for yourself.
If I regain the weight after a weight loss diet, it means that I have no willpower and am a failure.
At least 96% of all people who have lost weight on a weight loss diet gain it back within a few years. That is a clear sign that the system doesn’t work. It’s not you, it’s the diets.
Beauty only comes in a size 0.
For real? There’s so much beauty out there. Just open your eyes and you’ll see that this belief just doesn’t hold true. Ever. And if you only apply this belief to you and your body, then think again because you are devaluing yourself in a massive way.
I am what I eat.
That is one of the most lethal beliefs that’s been put out there by people trying to sell you their programs, their food, their clothes, etc. It’s NOT true. You are not what you eat.
Food is food. It’s great, it’s yummy, but it’s just food. What you eat doesn’t make you a better or a worse person; it just makes you a person who eats.
Men are only attracted to thin women.
Find at least 10 examples of men having married women who wear anything beyond a size 4. Still true?
I won’t be able to stand myself if I gain weight.
You may have to work on what true body-love means. You may have to begin to work on your self-esteem. You may have to change the way you see the world. But you will be able to stand yourself, heck even love yourself, if you’re open and willing to that possibility.
Ready to change your life? Book a 30-minute complimentary Discovery Call with me to see how I can help you turn that body-hatred into freedom and love.