How do you react when someone gives you a compliment?
Do you reject it or embrace it?
Do you question your friend’s sincerity or happily indulge in the glory of a few nice words?
I used to shudder when someone gave me a compliment and I still do from time to time. Why? Because my big old ego is and was telling me that there is nothing beautiful about me.
Yet, over time I came to realize that this was a really sad way of judging myself and my beauty.
Although I still struggle with completely accepting compliments, I am now at a point where I am at least open to receiving them. I am open to feeling amazing, feeling valued and feeling loved.
At the saem time, I love giving compliments. Not only does this make the other person recognize her beauty, but it also raises the energetic level around me, which always feels amazing.
How do you feel about giving or receiving compliments? Do you regularly tell the women and men around you how amazing they are? Do you point out special talents, gifts and skills?
This weekend, try to realize when someone is sharing a compliment with you and really feel the emotion of appreciation and love. Also, spread the love and give a compliment to someone you truly love and appreciate to let them know how you truly feel about them.
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Annesophie – I identify with you on not being able to take a compliment. I am working on receiving them but have not been diligent enough on catching myself. Giving compliments is easy for me ~ I tend to see the good/gifts in others and want to let them know that I appreciate it. To this day, I find, especially with people I’m not close to, that the receiver of my compliment is surprised that someone is noticing them. Good stuff that you’re talking about- thank you.
I think that deep down we all want to know that we matter to someone. And life’s too short to NIT tell your lives ones – or random strangers – how great they are. At the same time, I think we need to respect ourselves enough to accept and learn that we have awesomeness inside ourselves too.
Hi Anne-Sophie,
I’m the same way regarding compliments. I’ve gotten better over the years, but I realize I don’t want to be in the spotlight, so tend to be dismissive of compliments. Great reminder to accept compliments gracefully and to give them more freely. Thanks for a great post!
Thanks, Cathy. Maybe this is a “problem” we as women have? Maybe we are being dismissive because we’re scared that we’re actually looking beautiful or are talented or bright or whatever? I don’t know, but I find that being aware of feeling uneasy when it comes to compliments gives us a chance to take a step back, breathe and think about the comment a bit more and maybe, just maybe, we’ll feel that there’s truth in what the other person sees in us.