When Life Gets in the Way

by admin on June 14, 2013

I wish I could tell you that your self-love journey and life will always be a smooth and easy ride.

I wish I could tell you that there won’t be any obstacles, any challenges, any misfortunes and pain.

I wish I could tell you that life never gets in the way of your dreams, your hopes, your happiness and joy.

I wish…

Wait, no.

I don’t.

Because where would be the fun in that? Where would be the opportunity to grow, evolve and change?

Where would be the chance to build self-efficacy and self-trust?

Where would be the road to step into the real you?

While it’s true that you can surely grow tremendously in the good times of life, it’s also true that you grow quicker and maybe even more radical in the bad times, the times that hurt, cut like a knife, crush your dreams or simply limit your hopes.

Don’t get me wrong, bad times suck. Big time. But they’re going to happen; no matter what.

So, why not make the best out of them?

Why not change the way we look at these situations?

Why not turn the bad into something good?

When I lost my jobs because of the visa issues a few months ago, I felt awful. I freaked out about money, taking care of myself and being able to live in the US. However, within a few days, I was able to change the way I thought about this situation and turn this unfortunate situation into a milestone of personal growth.

I’ve used a simple exercise that helped me to transform my perspective and be happy again. :)

In today’s edition of Love Yourself Friday, I share a wonderful tool that’ll help you to do the same.

Reframing. Such a transformation tool to use in life and in your self-love journey.

Turning a wrong turn into an interesting one is awesome and it’s also quite fun.

Have you ever reframed a crappy situation? Have you been able to turn around a “fat”-day or a time you experienced low self-esteem? Tell us about it.

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10 Ways to Stop Overeating Today

by admin on June 12, 2013

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Do you know what a strawberry really tastes like? Have you ever truly noticed the texture of a piece of chocolate? Or the flavor of it?

If you haven’t – and if you tend to overeat, eat emotionally or compulsively -, you’re missing out on one of the most beautiful sides of life: the colors, flavors, textures, sounds and feelings you can – and should – experience when you put food into your mouth.

This concept of being truly present is called mindful eating. I’ve been doing a lot of research on this topic and it has led me down a few fascinating paths. I’m going to get a bit technical here, so bare with me for a moment. J

Basically, there are two ways of describing the practice of mindful eating.

It is the process of noticing what you eat (aka. paying full attention to the experience of eating and drinking, both inside and outside the body. We pay attention to the colors, smells, textures, flavors, temperatures, and even the sounds (crunch!) of our food. ) and it describes the practice of eating what you want, when you want.

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Mindful eating – is it even possible?

There are a lot of polarizing views on eating mindfully and whether it is even possible for us human beings living in this crazy world.

Dr. Brian Wansink, the author of Mindless Eating – Why We Eat More than We Think, writes about his research regarding the way we relate to food. He shares the many reasons we don’t – and supposedly can’t – eat mindfully, why our stomachs can’t think, how we’re being manipulated by the food industry, how we use external clues to figure out our hunger and satiation levels and more.

If you listen to his research, we are nothing more than machines, operating on autopilot, having completely lost trust in our own abilities to experience hunger and fullness, satiation and lust.

Discouraging.

On the other hand, Geneen Roth talks about our innate ability to eat mindfully, giving our bodies what they want, when they want it and therefor arriving at our natural weight and staying there. She knows what she’s talking about as she’s recovered from several eating disorders and has helped tens of thousands of women doing the same.

Very encouraging.

And in fact, Dr. Wansink shares that 3-year olds *know* when they’re hungry and full, totally neglecting external cues and relying on their inner wisdom for guidance.

But then, by the time we’re five years old, we’ve already lost that beautiful way of relating to food and instead of looking inward, we’re focusing on the outside.

It’s sad, but it’s also hopeful because it clearly shows that we do have the ability to relate to food in an easy, light way. We just have to find our way back to it.

How do we do that?

How do we go back to that beautiful place of self-trust? We start small with these ten simple steps.

  1. Focus, focus, focus.

    Put the computer away. Silence the phone. Turn off the TV and don’t eat while driving in the car. The less distractions the better!

  2. Eat in silence.

    Eating in silence might be scary for some, but it’ll definitely enhance your experience of food and nourishing your body. Try it at least once and see how your senses perceive eating on a completely new level.

  3. Eat alone.

    Taking step number 2 a little bit further, try to eat alone at least once a week.

  4. Sit down!

    Or as Geneen Roth would say: When you eat at the refrigerator, pull up a chair… Make it a rule to only eat whenever you’re sitting down. This gives you space for pause and reflection and also keeps you from eating out of habit or when you’re bored.

  5. Concentrate on what is in your mouth, not on your plate.

    Gulping down handfuls of food in minus three seconds is part of emotional eating, but you can stop it by focusing on each mouthful of food. Really notice the texture, the flavor, the way it feels in your mouth, the temperature and the sounds it makes when you bite into it. Try to stay in the present moment and become truly aware of what is going on in your mouth.

    Do you even like what you’re eating? Does it even taste?

  6. Chew.

    When you’re in the zone, you don’t chew. Try to change that by actively focusing on the process of chewing.

  7. Use forks and knives!

    Eating with your hands may be convenient, but it’s also a certain way to overeat. Use your forks and knives and put them down between mouthfuls to give yourself time to chew, taste and experience food.

  8. Let go of the need to eat “huge amounts”.

    When I circled in the binging/starving cycle, I always thought that once I was healthy, I’d always eat HUGE amounts of food. However, that’s not true. You need less than you think (that is, once you’re at a healthy weight!) and if you focus on quality instead of quantity, your wellbeing will improve.

  9. Make it a process.

    Cook for yourself, decorate the table and learn to appreciate the whole process of eating. Remember that eating is not just fuel for your body, but it can also be a wonderful ritual.

  10. Start small.

    Don’t overwhelm yourself with the notion of needing to do this perfectly today. You’ve been caught in a different world for way too long to be able to move into the realm of mindful eating over night. Give it time and start small. Maybe you want to eat mindfully once every week and then after a month, go up to twice and so on.

Be patient with yourself and practice radical self-compassion in this time of transformation. Incorporating mindful eating into your life will bring up many issues for you, so be especially attentive during those months.

Let me know how it goes and most importantly, share your thoughts on mindful eating and whether it’s possible or not.

If you would like to leave feedback, send it to podcast@annesophie.us or simply leave a comment in the comment section below.

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