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Is this you?

by Anne-Sophie Reinhardt on August 28, 2015

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There’s a girl living down the street.

She seems to lead a normal life; goes to work every morning, drinks her coffee, smiles at strangers and waves hello every time we pass. She paints her nails, listens to music, watches TV and goes about her daily life with quiet diligence.

There’s a girl living down the street and she struggles with her body. Big time.

I see her disordered eating. I hear her cries, notice her tears, her disconnection from her body and her feelings.

I know she likes sports, is into healthy foods and all the wellness trends out there. She has a wide range of hobbies, or at least she would have,

if she didn’t feel so restricted by the body she is trapped in.

She likes to work, but struggles with balance in her life, that lack of balance that is mostly visible in her craziness around losing weight.

That girl living down the street values worthiness, abundance, justice, integrity, freedom, fun, play, self-care, contribution, generosity, responsibility, joy and creativity. She has a beautiful, vivid and open inner world. There’s so much going on, she has so much to give.

But she feels restricted by her weight.

With all her beautiful inner ongoings, the girl I see every day is lonely in her world. There’s nobody she confesses in, nobody she can really share her deep, deep grief, burden and need for support.

This gorgeous, wonderful girl thinks about food and her body all day long. She wakes up counting calories and beats herself up for having eaten too much. All she wants is to be accepted, feel loved and cared for. She wants to be confident and walk through life knowing that her body is OK. She yearns to enjoy food without feeling guilty after of every single bite. She wants to be free of self-destructive thoughts and her biggest wish is peace of mind and freedom.

But, she feels ashamed of who she is.

She is scared of letting go because all her life she needed to be in control to merely survive. Her inner most wish is to be held and told it’s OK, that it’s all going to be fine.

But, every morning, all she can feel is dread.

There’s a girl living down the street and she is so scared of being judged. So, so scared of being judged. And she is judged. So often. So ruthlessly. So hatefully.

She’s sick and tired of constant dieting. Yet all she wants is for that next diet to work. She feels broken. She knows she’s broken. That diet is going to fix her, make her whole. She knows it will.

Yet, in reality, all she truly wants is out, out, OUT. She wants to breathe, to live, to be.

Is that girl down the street you?

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5 Books to Read This August

by Anne-Sophie Reinhardt on July 22, 2015

Summer time is reading time – at least for me.

I love diving into new books, exploring new adventures and following the paths of awesome female characters and exceptionally interesting science books.

On our vacation in Italy, I spent every free minute reading: from The Life List to Body of Truth to What Are You Hungry For to The Rosie Effect to The Year I Met you, I devoured them all. When my boys were sleeping blissfully, I dove in to a new world and loved every minute of it.

Every book entailed life wisdoms, unexpected laughs, some tears and lots of juicy tips to live by.

If you’re wondering what you can read this summer, here are my favorite 5 books for you: (and yes, they’re all somewhat related to body image, self-love and self-esteem):

1. Body of Truth by Harriet Brown

Harriet Brown, author of the book Brave Girl Eating: A Family’s Struggle with Anorexia, describes the 4 big fat lies that we’re being told when it comes to weight and health by the oh so powerful diet industry. She gives clear and shameful examples about how we’re being manipulated, lied to and hurt.

I loved this book as it is heavy on research but also gives a relatable tale of a woman who’s always been struggling with weight and the relation to health.

2. Dietland by Sarai Walker

This is by far my favorite book of the year. When I started reading Dietland, I didn’t expect much. I hadn’t even read the description and just picked it up.

What I read was mind-blowing. This book is a perfect portrayal of our times and offers a few twisted storylines making you re-think everything you’ve learned and seen in your life so far.

Do pick it up!

3. The Year I Met You by Cecelia Ahern

I love, love, love most of Cecelia Ahern’s books. She writes with such warmth that you can’t not fall in love with the characters and their stories. I used to read her books in one sitting and then read them from page one over and over again.

The Year I Met You is a beautiful tale of an unlikely friendship and shows how we’re all different underneath our super hard shells. When you lean in, open up and share your life with others, magic can unfold.

4. What Are You Hungry For?: The Chopra Solution to Permanent Weight Loss, Well-Being, and Lightness of Soul by Deepak Chopra

OK, so it sounds like a diet book and in a way it is, BUT there are still tons of great points about mind-body connection, balance and consciousness and how these relate to body image, digestion, energy and immunity.

Please don’t take Chopra’s dietary tips too seriously as he comes from a different background, but you can never have enough inspiration, right?

5. The Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion

While I loved the first book “The Rosie Project” even more, this sequel is lovely. There are some hugely frustrating parts, but overall the story is worth a read. Don’s character is charming, naive, awkward and brilliant.

The way he handles his “impending” fatherhood is both sad and heartbreakingly delightful. There are many laughs along the way and yes, I also cried.

Want to discuss some of these books with me and a group of fabulous women? Join the brand-sparking-new Virtual Body Image Book Club now.

Sign up today.

Space is limited to 25 people and we’re kicking it off on Monday, July 27th!

What are your favorite books of this year so far? Do share!

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Radical Body-Acceptance Workbook

July 10, 2015

Hi lovely, I wanted to create something special for you before I leave for vacation to Italy (I cannot wait!). So, I put together this Radical Body-Acceptance Workbook for you. Now, before you dive into the juicy body-acceptance exercises in this workbook, I want to explain a few things. This workbook is designed to get […]

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Just Perfect: Hanne Arts

July 7, 2015

A few weeks ago, I received an email from a girl named Hanne Arts who had just published her first novel and asked me to add it to my resource list for girls fighting anorexia. When I heard about Hanne’s story, I instantly wanted to interview here and I’m thrilled that she’s answering some questions for […]

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What to Wear In Summer When You Hate Your Body

July 3, 2015

It’s hot. Really, really, really hot! And while we’re all dying of this heat, trying to stay as cool as possible eating ice-cream to reduce the pain, most of my clients are in an existential crisis. For them, this time of the year is not about getting a tan, being outside and enjoying the sun; nope, […]

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A Call To Action For All Women

June 26, 2015

One of the biggest grievances I have regarding us women is that we don’t accept the work we need to do in this world at this time. We don’t see that we’re the biggest obstacles in our own way of finding body image freedom and joy in food. You see… It’s us who invented the thigh […]

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What I’ve learned in my first year of being a single mom

June 24, 2015

So, my baby boy who was just born like yesterday is now 1 year old. It’s hard to grasp how fast time flew by. It’s hard to grasp that this tiny baby that was just in my belly is now beginning to walk, talk and really engage with the world. He’s grown and evolved (just like […]

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What’s your body religion?

June 17, 2015

All of us carry around certain beliefs about our body. Most of them are: I need to be thin to be loved. A bigger body is an unhealthy body.  I need to be slender to be beautiful.  I’m ugly because I have fat.  If I stop dieting, my body will explode.  My body betrays me.  People don’t respect […]

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When You’re Being Hated for Who You Are

May 17, 2015

Let’s be real: just like not everyone in this world is going to think you’re beautiful, not everyone on this planet is going to like you. There’ll be lots of people who love you, there’ll be people who won’t care about you, and there’ll also be people who downright hate you – just because you are […]

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The Gift of Our Compulsions with Mary O’Malley

May 5, 2015

Today, I am delighted to share an interview with one of my greatest teachers and inspirations: Mary O’Malley. Mary is an author, counselor and awakening mentor in Kirkland, Washington. In the early 1970’s, a powerful awakening led Mary to begin changing her relationship with her challenges, freeing her from a lifelong struggle with darkness. Mary’s […]

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